The supposed brutal plotting and murder of Raja Raghuvanshi by his wife Sonam, her lover Raj Kushwah and his friends have shocked the entire nation!!
It took 18 whole days for the police to unravel the murder mystery of the newlywed husband on his honeymoon in Meghalaya. While the initial news suggested and questioned the natives of the state, the answers were not something one expected.
There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that the perpetrators of this crime should not go unpunished. If it requires retribution then so be it for as is claimed it was indeed a cold-blooded thought-out conspiracy.
Reams and reams of newspaper has and will dissect the case in totality and so will be hours of news prime time will be spent on this case. In all the sensationalism and media overreach, all the five accomplices will be pronounced guilty even before the trial will begin or for that matter even before the chargesheet is filed.
In all this I want to put a counter narrative to this whole story (strictly going as per media reports):
- As per one report Sonam couldn’t marry Raj as her father was a heart patient and thus implying that he would suffer on her defying his choice.
- As per another report Raja wanted to call off the wedding looking at the in differential attitude of Sonam during the courtship period, but his relatives convinced him otherwise.
I am sure all parents are always seeking the best for their children and they want them to have a good comfortable life. But in the matters of heart what is good for a parent may not be good for their children.
What if the father of Sonam had agreed to hers and Raj relationship? Wouldn’t lives have been saved and families not destroyed?
Law always catches up no matter how brilliant criminal and irrespective of it being a Perfect Murder!!What were Sonam and Raj thinking? Maybe the love for each other was too strong to even get into the negatives?
On the other side what if the relatives had listened to Raja before the wedding and cancelled it while it was still easy for both the families?
There are couples we all know whose relationship has been sacrificed in the name of family name and in the name of log kya kahenge? When will parents give enough leeway for their children to be with whom they want to. If it doesn’t work out atleast they will not be blamed.
The vagaries of the heart are strange and inexplicable!! We have all seen couples who broke up and married people of their parents’ choice and are living happily ever after.
And we have also seen murders, divorces, unhappy marriages, infidelity – when they do not get what their heart desires. For there is always a very thin line between what is best for someone and forcing someone to act against his wishes.
This reminds me of a famous Khalil Gibran poem – On Children
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Perhaps, had more autonomy been granted to those involved, lives wouldn’t have been shattered. Regardless, the law will take its course—no crime, no matter how meticulously planned, remains hidden forever.
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